“What should I wear to a fall wedding?” is one of the most common questions this season—especially here in Rochester, NY, where October and November weather can be unpredictable. One day you’re basking in the glow of autumn leaves, the next you’re reaching for a coat from a chilly breeze. That’s why knowing how to dress for the couple’s chosen level of formality is just as important as dressing for the weather.
Whether your invite calls for casual chic or the elegance of white tie, this guide breaks down fall wedding attire by dress code so you’ll feel stylish, season-appropriate, and comfortable. If you are looking for fall color palettes to plan an event or outfit, visit our Fall Color Palettes blog for inspiration!
Casual Fall Wedding Attire
For a casual wedding, look for clothing and accessories that feel comfortable and relaxed while still looking pulled together. Often, casual weddings take place earlier in the day, making a maxi dress for women and a nice button-down shirt for men a good option. Look for breathable, warm fabric like wool blends, chiffon, tweed, suede, and linen blends.
Colors like brown, amber, or forest green reflect the season beautifully. Add layers like a cozy wrap, leather jacket, or cardigan for outdoor ceremonies. If the venue is outdoors and celebration indoors—like at Oaks Manor—casual attire lets you lean into autumn textures like suede or corduroy without feeling overdressed. Shoes can be flats or short heels, men can wear casual dress shoes.
Women’s attire: Maxi dress from Baltic Born on the left, Matilda Pleated Maxi Dress by Bohme on the right. | Men’s attire: Standard-fit wrinkle-resistant dress shirt by Banana Republic.
Dressy Casual Wedding Attire
Dressy casual, also known as semi-formal, sits in the sweet spot between casual and cocktail attire. A flowy skirt with a silky blouse, a tailored jumpsuit, or a fall wedding guest dress in crepe or satin works perfectly. Stick with jewel tones or deep, earthy shades that complement the fall palette.
Accessories can make all the difference here—statement earrings, a sleek belt, or heeled boots instantly elevate the look. For Rochester’s late October chill, add a coat or tailored blazer that ties the whole outfit together. Heels and men’s dress shoes are more appropriate for this style.
Women’s attire: Amalie The Label – Janae Linen Blend Puff Sleeve Cut Out Midi Dress in Chocolate; Anthropology Hutch Printed Twist-Front Puff-Sleeve Ruffle-Hem Dress,
Men’s attire: Italian Windowpane Suit in brown Combo by Banana Republic.
Cocktail Wedding Attire
Cocktail attire is one of the most common requests for fall weddings in Rochester, NY. For women, this means a knee-length or midi dress in a chic, dressy fabric, such as velvet, satin, or chiffon. A-line silhouettes, wrap dresses, and slip-style gowns are all flattering options. Men should wear a suit and tie.
Since Rochester’s weather cools quickly in the evening, layering is a wise choice. Dark florals or jewel-tone solids—think emerald, shades of black, or navy—look stunning against fall backdrops. Pair your dress with block heels or elegant ankle boots for comfort, and layer with a shawl or cropped jacket for outdoor photos or cocktail hour.
Women’s Attire: Anabelle Halter-Neck Lace Maxi Dress by Petal & Pup; Men’s Attire: Jetsetter Italian Suit by Bonobos.
Formal / Black Tie Optional vs. Black Tie Attire
Formal attire allows room for flexibility. Guests can choose a full-length gown or a refined midi dress. The key is selecting rich fabrics and sophisticated colors—burgundy, deep teal, or black are always appropriate. If the wedding is more formal, opt for a sleek, floor-length gown.
For black-tie weddings, the expectation is one of glamour. A full-length gown in a luxurious fabric—silk, velvet, or satin—is the standard. Necklines such as off-the-shoulder, halter, or one-shoulder styles feel especially elegant for evening receptions.
Shoes should be refined—strappy heels or closed-toe pumps work well. Pair with metallic accents, such as a gold clutch or crystal jewelry. Since many Rochester venues include time outdoors for photos, plan a warm yet elegant outer layer, such as a wool wrap coat or cape.
Women’s attire: Gala Dress by Cris Serra; Men’s attire: Jetsetter Italian Flannel Suit by Bonobos.
Fall Wedding White Tie Attire
The most formal of all dress codes, white tie requires your most elegant evening attire. Full-length ball gowns in silk, satin, or taffeta are traditional. This is the time for dramatic silhouettes, opera-length gloves, and statement jewelry.
For accessories, opt for a timeless look—pearl earrings, delicate bracelets, and satin evening bags never go out of style. In Rochester’s late fall, temperatures can be cold, so pair your gown with a formal evening coat or cape in a coordinating color. White tie is rare but unforgettable, and dressing for it should feel like a once-in-a-lifetime fashion moment.
Women’s Attire: Enya Burnt Orange Handkerchief Gown by Azazie; Men’s Attire: Modern Fit Wool Blend Notch Lapel Tuxedo Jacket by Men’s Warehouse.
Fall Weddings at Oaks Manor in Churchville, NY
When it comes to what to wear to a fall wedding as a guest, consider the weather and setting beyond the dress code. Rochester’s autumn celebrations are breathtaking, but the chill can sneak up on you—so layering and fabric choice matter just as much as formality. Whether you’re attending a rustic casual ceremony or a dazzling white-tie reception, the right outfit will keep you comfortable, stylish, and fully present for the couple’s big day.
At Oaks Manor, we’ve seen firsthand how magical October and November weddings can be, with candlelit receptions and golden foliage as your backdrop. If you’re dreaming of hosting your own fall wedding, our team would love to help bring it to life. Contact Oaks Manor today to schedule a tour of our venue and begin planning your perfect celebration.