You’ve decided to write your own wedding vows. Now what? You’ve told your fiancée how you feel thousands of times, but the thought of putting your feelings into words for your wedding ceremony suddenly robs you of all ability to speak. Don’t worry! Oaks Manor Events offers a few tips and tricks to help you find the right sentiments and the words to express them.
Before You Begin
Before putting pen to paper, talk to the love of your life, and discuss your vows’ format. Do you want to write them in rhyme? In song? Does it matter if you do it the same way? Do you have a particular length in mind? After this discussion, you’ll at least have an idea of how long your vows should be — whether in the number of words or minutes.
Traditional vows are very particular and structured. Writing your own vows allows you to be more creative and personal. You may still want to touch on traditional themes but put them in your own words.
What to Include in Your Vows
Whatever you choose to say, make sure to say, “I love you.” It’s easy to get lost in your emotional and intimate feelings, but those three words are more important than any others. Don’t forget to add them to your vows.
All relationships have ups and downs. Traditional vows include “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health,” and you should acknowledge this in your vows as well. Tell your future husband or wife that you will be by their side no matter what comes along.
What do you love about your partner? What is it about this person that has led you to promise to live your life with them forever? What do you miss about them when you’re apart? When did you realize you were in love?
It’s truly meaningful when you share personal stories in your vows. Whether you describe how you met, your first date, or your first fight, it’s a part of who you are as a couple now. Sharing those stories is what makes writing your own vows significant.
Make promises. These are vows, after all. You can vow to stand by your significant other’s side forever, and you can promise to always take out the trash on Tuesday nights. Not all promises have to be heavy and serious. Be true to yourself and your relationship.
Make a Cheat Sheet
Once you’ve written your vows, don’t put pressure on yourself to memorize them. It’s completely acceptable — and even expected — that you’ll have notes for reference.
Pro tip: Bulletize your notes so you can speak from the heart without reading word-for-word.
Don’t “Wing It”
You may read our tips and think, “I’ve got this. I don’t need to write anything.” On your wedding day, you will have a lot on your mind, you’ll be in front of friends and loved ones, and you’ll want to express yourself eloquently. “Winging it” rarely works out well — especially if your fiancée has prepared ahead. Take the time to jot down some notes for yourself. You’ll be glad you did!
How to Create a Vendor List from Scratch
To start building your vendor list, begin with a list of wedding vendors that are most essential to your vision. At Oaks Manor, couples often bring in their own:
- Caterers and bartenders
- Florists and decorators
- Musicians or DJs
- Photographers and videographers
- Officiants
- Hair and makeup teams
- Rental companies for furniture, tents, or décor
You can use a vendor list template, a spreadsheet, a wedding planning app, or even a shared Google Document to track key details. Be sure to include names, contact info, arrival/setup times, and payment deadlines. Your event vendor list doesn’t need to be fancy; it just needs to be clear, accessible, and shared with the people who need it.
Choosing the Right Vendors for an Estate Wedding
Since Oaks Manor is only a host location, we don’t lock you into a preferred vendor list. That means you’re free to work with the professionals you love most and build a day that reflects your style, priorities, and budget.
Still, the best vendors are those who understand you, your style, your pace, and your goals. Set up calls, read reviews, and don’t be afraid to ask, “Have you worked at an event venue like this before?” The right team will be just as excited as you are to bring your ideas to life.
Best Practices for a Vendor List
As you finalize your list of vendors for an event, consider the following tips.
- Keep everything in one place. Whether it’s digital or on paper, your vendor list should include full names, phone numbers, email addresses, contracts, and notes regarding responsibilities.
- Share your timeline. Your vendors should know when they can arrive, when they need to be finished, and where they will be setting up. Oaks Manor’s flexibility makes this easy; we offer extended access for setup and breakdown.
- Confirm details in writing. A well-organized vendor contact list is your insurance against miscommunication.
- Stay in touch. A quick check-in with each vendor a week before your wedding helps avoid last-minute surprises.
Maintaining clear communication and records of conversations will help you keep track of your plans and ensure everything is clear for you and your vendors.
FAQ’s
Seeking more information on creating a vendor list? See the frequently asked questions below or contact our team, and we will be happy to help!
Why is a vendor list important?
A vendor list helps you stay organized, ensures vendors know where and when to appear, and provides everyone with a clear point of contact.
When you’re managing an event as unique as a wedding at a private estate, that level of coordination can make all the difference.
What is a Vendor List?
A document that keeps track of all the professionals and services involved in your event. Including how to contact them, dates, prices, arrival and departure times, legal information, important details or conversations, and any other relevant information you need to keep track of for your event.
How to Create a Vendor List?
This is your all-in-one organizer. Your vendor list should include each vendor’s business name, contact person, phone number & email, arrival/setup times, contract status, remaining balance due, important conversations, legal agreements, and any other relevant details you want to remember. Keep it somewhere accessible, such as a shared Google Sheet, a wedding planning app, or a printed folder that you bring to the venue.
Plan Your Event at Oaks Manor
At Oaks Manor, we offer space for up to 180 guests, provide outdoor ceremonies, and feature a brand-new carriage house that is perfect for cocktail hour. Please get in touch with our team, and we will arrange a time for you to take a tour.
